Advice about dating in college
For now, my daughter’s attending a community college. In either case, as she meets new young men, new opportunities a different world than what she’s been used to will open up to her.
I want her to take with her a bit of fatherly wisdom to guide her and help her to avoid some of the perils and pitfalls that could derail her dreams.
The prevailing assumption is that college co-eds will consent to sex. Casual sex between friends and acquaintances, called “hook-ups,” are common.
A study by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy concluded that nearly 9 in 10 young adults age 18 to 29 are having pre-marital sex.
It’s honorable, and God and I still believe it’s the best choice to make. But to do that, you must know your boundaries and communicate them firmly.
The feminist movement has made it acceptable for a woman to take the initiative in asking a man for a date, and even to ask a man to marry her. Movies about women who try to hook a disinterested man don’t sell well.
Now that she’s in college, it seems appropriate to give my daughter college dating advice.
Before now, she got advice about boys—mostly warnings.
Once I started learning about attraction, I came to the sad conclusion that I could have taken advantage of being able to practice the skills of meeting and attracting women. In fact, that was how I thought meeting girls was supposed to be like: introductions. Instead, I complained about not being able to meet girls. By my senior year, I got fed up with doing this and started going to a few new spots. If I had applied that same mentality during college, I would have been more successful with the girls there and felt way better in the morning.
Devote the years you’re enrolled in college first to your education and pursuit of a profession.