Once you are gone, he might realize what he has lost.
And because you did not give him an ultimatum but respected the person he was—flaws and all—he might get some help to overcome his fears and come back to you.
Indeed, why learn how to settle for crumbs when you could work on your codependency issues, become healthier, and attract someone who is also healthy?
And if you are trying to get someone back who left you, there is a good chance you were in a relationship where you loved the person, but that person probably wasn’t capable of returning your love.But when he grows bored or indifferent--o even worse, perhaps turning yours into an abusive relationship—he will likely move on by having affairs while nonetheless allowing you to play his faithful servant. Won’t it make you feel worse about yourself than ever, especially because while you might be trying to deny it, at another level you know that you are allowing yourself to be used? What if when you sense he is losing interest but hasn’t quite brought himself to walk through that door, you leave first?Indeed, your self esteem will take a nosedive because playing the role of doormat does that to people. You’re right, this might work to get him back if he likes to play the approach-avoidance dance.The codependent woman, in other words, often attracts a man who is happy to use her to get his own needs met, but he is often not capable of being in a true partnership.
If she gets tired of always giving and finally walks away, he might come running after her.If she turns to run back into his arms, thinking he and things have changed, it is likely he will soon be pushing her away again. If you want to know how to dance better, go take some dancing lessons.