White woman for black man dating
Writing about this has helped me get clearer and clearer on this.To be blunt--I think people who spend their time stressing about the DNA admixture in other people's relationship need to give some thought to boundaries.Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit...wince. African people worldwide are known to be welcoming and open-minded.
White woman are seen as more beautiful because of Eurocentric beauty standards that black women and other women of color cannot live up to.This is not that case for all black men who date outside of their race though.However, Black men are twice as likely to marry outside their race than Black women, and there is a unique, community issue of some Black men explicitly not wanting to date Black women at all, which isn’t as common in other races.But at some point brothers have to stop reeling off stats about college and prison, and resolve to be something more. I've met very few (if any) black women who need a lecture on asserting themselves.
We all have a moment, as black people, where we have to stop the process of bemoaning what the world thinks of us, and start asserting that which we think of ourselves. Which is why I find this constant "plight of the black woman" bit bewildering.
My position is that for women of color, this very common "wince" has solely to do with the African story in America.